Contents
an introduction
A person goes through many stages in his life, the first and most important of which is the stage of childhood, this stage in which a person begins to form, and begins to collect ideas to face life later, so what the child learns and the way in which he lives is what determines his future and the way in which he will live. And do not forget that education at a young age is like engraving in the rocks, so what a child learns stays with him for the rest of his life, so the child must be properly established, and deal with him in all the right ways that make him straight in his life and behave well.There are many ways in which we can deal with children, including sound and correct ways, and some very bad ways, so whoever thinks that hitting children is useful is wrong, hitting leaves negative effects on the child that makes him act incorrectly and deal with the things he faces with violence and a big mistake. Therefore, it is imperative to deal with children in certain ways, and punish them in ways that are meaningful without leaving any negative effects on them. You must know that using punishment in the right way helps children solve problems, and it is okay for the child to feel a little guilt, because the feeling of guilt makes the child retreat. From the wrong act, and a little bit of guilt that does not hurt, try to completely avoid the use of traditional methods of punishing children, those methods that negatively affect the psyche of the child and make him aggressive and fierce in dealing with others, be logical in punishing the child and make sure that the child is in the stages of his initial education, He will not know what is right and what is wrong except through you, and in this way you help himTo follow the right path in all his life, starting with simple matters.
Punishment methods
The sharp look
In the early years of the child's life, the child is very curious to know everything around him, and his curiosity may make him play with dangerous things, so we must keep all things from his way, especially if he is a danger to him, and a sharp look may be enough to deter him, so your gaze The sharpness and anger that appears on the features of your face makes him aware that he has done something wrong that others do not like, and it should not be done again.
Deprivation
Deprivation may be one of the most important and most effective methods of punishment. When you deprive your child of something loved by him, he reviews himself and is ready to do anything so that he is not deprived of the things he loves, and this is a way to send a message to the child that what he did is wrong and should not be repeated, and attention must be paid. During the execution of the punishment, the deprivation punishment should not take place until after the mistake is repeated once or twice, and it is for a limited period, such as for a day or an hour Because long deprivation may negatively affect the psyche of the child.
Imprisonment and neglect
This type of punishment is very useful, but not much use it, so when your child makes a mistake, make him go to a certain corner of the house and stand in it or sit on a chair while being distracted and neglectful, and the period of this punishment should not exceed ten minutes nor less than five minutes, and do not talk To the child during the punishment period, but talk to him after the end of the sentence and find out from him the reasons for the punishment and whether he understood the reason for the punishment, and make sure that he will not repeat his mistake.
Negative reinforcement
When the duration of the deprivation or the increase in ignoring the child, and he did not respond after the agreement that was made with him, and the same mistake occurred without any justification after he modified his behavior, the period of deprivation is reduced as a kind of reward for the child.
These are some of the things that may have a good result for punishing children far from causing them psychological or physical harm, and there are methods that can be used to make the child respond quickly without means of punishment, which is the method of positive language and this method depends on moving away from negativity in our dealings with the child, For example, if you do not do such-and-such, I will not love you, and if you do not stop doing such-and-such, you will go to the fire or God torment you, move away from the method and replace it with the positive way and you will find the difference. Every achievement of your child is related to something such as a kiss, a gift or a space, and we must follow our true religion in raising children in order to be on the right path.
Tips and Advice
- Start by learning your child how to make his life organized, and how to distinguish between what is wrong and what is right.
- Praise your child for doing good things, so that he does not feel that you are only paying attention to his bad behavior, as this may make him always behave badly in order to attract your attention.
- Do not make strong threats to your child with a punishment that you cannot do so that you do not lose credibility with them.
- Be upfront when explaining to your child his mistakes and their consequences, and use an appropriate approach for him and his age.
- The punishment should be appropriate for the mistake the child made. Some mistakes need to be reminded of good behavior, and some mistakes need punishment to preserve discipline.
- The punishment must be proportional to the child's age, as younger children may forget the reason for the punishment within minutes, and it is not reasonable for a child under two years to be punished with the same punishment as a ten-year-old child.
- When your child does things that you do not want him to do, calmly tell him to stop this behavior, instead of shouting in a harsh tone, if the child is stubborn, use the same method to calmly tell him that he should stop his actions, and explain to him why you do not agree with his actions and what harm Who might catch him if he did not stop.
- Make everyone around your child and deal with him directly to deal with your child in the same manner that you deal with him when he makes a mistake, it is not correct for you to punish and others encourage the child not to respond to you, here you will get a big problem that makes you lose control of your son because of the presence of someone standing next to him and encouraging him On his wrong behavior and makes him think that they are correct.
It is better for the father and the mother to raise their child in order to learn their ways of life and be his role model, as many parents depend on nurseries to raise their children, and they stay for a long period of the day I have educators who have different habits and temperaments than the father and mother, this makes the child acquire methods that may be wrong It is not easy to stop it and make the parents lose control of their child; Because they are far from him most of the time and do not know what is wrong and right.
Never use violence against your child, and know that if he made a mistake, he did not know that it was wrong, you have to explain that to him, because he learns from you and you are the one who guides him to know what is right and wrong, and completely move away from the methods of hitting, cursing and screaming these methods for the ignorant who do not know that Their child will have a mental illness as a result of dealing with him with these methods.
